Sunday, April 3, 2022
The Approaching Quiet
Wednesday, March 30, 2022
Sugar On Snow
Spring is coming and the sap is running. Fond memories of life in the Northeast Kingdom of Vermont.
We moved to Barton,Vermont when I was 4 and Gail was 18 months. We moved back to South Portland, Maine when I was in 5th grade. Most of my childhood memories were from that time, the 50's and early 60's. Good memories of a simpler time and a simpler place.
Our friends were country/small town folks, salt of the earth. Every spring, withot fail, they would invite us to take part in the annual ritual of tapping the maple trees and boiling down the sap. The whole community, young and old, got involved and there was plenty to do.
The Maple groves were tended during the winter pruning deadwood and brush. Firewood was cut, hauled and stacked near the sugar shack. Buckets, spickets and equipment to haul the sap were readied.
Warming temperatures started the sap flowing and everything shifted into high gear. Trees were tapped and galvanized buckets and lids were installed.
We joined the Richardson family at their sugar shack one Saturday to help collect sap and boil it down to syrup. We followed the horse drawn tank wagon through the grove on muddy and snow covered tote roads. I remember dashing from tree to tree checking buckets. First order of business was to remove any drowned or swimming field mice and carry the buckets to the wagon where it was emptied into the tank. Then we would return the empty buckets to their trees and hang them back in place. But not before getting on our knees and letting the sweet sap drip into our mouths. A typical tree will produce 10 to 20 gallons of sap per season.
When the tank was full we would trudge back or ride on the back of the wagon to the sugar shack and transfer the sap to a holding tank. Sap was boiled down over a wood fire in batches in a large flat pan. It took around 3 hours to finish a batch. The sweet smell of the boiling sap is a sweet memory.
One part of the art of sugaring off was testing the consistency of the syrup with a long wooden paddle. It would drip off the paddle in sheets when it was ready. 40 gallons of sap produces 1 gallon of sweet amber syrup. Liquid gold.
Next came the tasting. A small amount of syrup was boiled down even further until it begame thick and tacky and a tray of snow was collected and placed on the table. The thick syrup was poured over the snow and immediately became solid and taffy-like. We twirlled up the sticky treat on forks. Sugar-on-Snow. Nothing like it. Guaranteed to pull the fillings out of your teeth. It was served with homemade sour pickles and raised donuts which had been cooked in the boiling sap.
By this time all the kids were on a sugar high, but the festivities continued. We all received a small bowl of the boiled down syrup and a spoon to stir and whip it into thick creamy maple sugar candy. We saved some on waxed paper and gobbled up the rest, licking the bowl clean.
I remember feeling sick to my stomach after these events. Just the price you pay for all the fun.
Great memories.
Thursday, January 13, 2022
Sunday, January 9, 2022
Warren
We pulled
into the Hampton Inn in Fredericksburg, Virginia after a grueling 9 hour drive
down the I-95 Road from Hell; NYC, the GW Bridge, major accident delay on the NJ Turnpike
and, the finale, the DC I-495 Beltway. I was relieved this leg of the trip was
behind us. Never fun.
We were
overnighting at our usual spot on our
way to Saint Simons Island for some time away from the New England cold and
snow. I-95 South from Fredericksburg is a walk in the park; no potholes, no
snow, no tolls… although lots of speed traps.
After
checking into our room, I wandered next door to the 7-11 for some cold adult
beverages and spied him sitting on the curb. It was a cold evening and he was bundled
up in a wool hat and hoodie, but his sparkling eyes and wide smile were visible
above his long, white beard. He looked like William Lee Golden of the Oak Ridge
Boys.
I dropped 4
bits into his plastic cup on the way out and he flashed me a smile. “Hey,
thanks! You’re a good guy.” I returned his smile. “Stay warm, brother.”
As I walked
back to the hotel, I wondered about him so an hour later I picked up a couple
bananas from the hotel and walked over to find him in the same spot. He smiled
when he recognized me and as I dropped a buck in the cup. “So what’s your
story?” I asked as I sat down on the curb across from him.
“You really
want too hear it?” he asked and I nodded.
I passed him
the bananas and he beamed.”Cool!”
“Well, my
house burned down. Lost my three dogs. Chimney fire. My grandson put me up in
the Red Roof Inn, but I just found out I can get Social Security money in June
when I turn 65. I’ll be ok.”
“I miss my
dogs. I walk dogs during the week at the animal shelter. Keeps me sober”
“Need
anything from the store?” I asked.
“Serious?”
he replied.
I nodded.
“Pack of
cigarettes?”
“What’s your
brand?” I asked.
“Kools”
Made me
smile and think of my father in law, Joe.
I returned
and passed him the smokes. Two banana skins laid on the ground at his feet.
What’s your
name?”
“Warren…can
I shake your hand?” he replied.
Big hands.
Strong grip. Another big smile.
Thanks for
the story, Warren. Good luck, brother.
Saturday, November 27, 2021
Music
Yeah, I play the guitar. It was very cool in the 60's to be able to strum and croon ,'The Rising Sun' or 'Bogangles'. And I sure wanted to be cool.
In truth, my meager song writing and guitar playing abilities is likely how I enraptured my wife, the most significant, the most fortuitous event of my life. She had music in her and she was attracted to someone who shared the muse.
But I never learned music. It's all by ear for me. And it was so for my dad, Frank. He played guitar a little, but more, the ukelele. It worked so much better at the church talent shows.
I passed on a passion for playing instrumental music to my kids, especially my sons, and Connie passed on her singing gift to our daughter. The boys both wanted to play the saxaphone and, in 5th grade ,we rented two alto saxes from Al Corey. About 9 months into it, I called them to the living room for a serious discussion. "You are not spending time practicing your saxaphones. Should I send them back?" They both broke down in tears. And so it began.
They joined Band. And Marching Band, And Jazz Band. They went to Jazz Camp. They were awarded State Jazz Band honors. Eric learned to play the drums and bought a set with his own money. He joined several bands and they all practiced in our bassement...where the drums were.
These were grunge bands. "Captain Suck". "Bung Monkey". "Statistical Density". Loud. Edgey. The girls loved it. I used to pass the band members hearing protection on their way to the basement and flicker the lights when it was too late...or too loud.
They both took the music with they when they went off to college and they jammed whenever the opportunity presented itself.
We know that Eric played drums and sax at Ormond College. in Australia. He shared his music and they loved it. Such an intimate connection.
At his funeral we played "Off He Goes" by Pearl Jam. It is my connection.
Ryan grew musically. He was elected "Best Jazz Musician", in high school, in Portland, in the press. He played locally. at clubs, with bands, walk on. The music was in him. And he understood the music. Like I never did...or ever will.
And now, they are both gone. So, did the music die with them? I did my best, brought it to the peak of excellence with my prodgeny.
It will go on.
Just not my job any more to make it so.
Thursday, November 18, 2021
Energy
Faith
My quandry is not with the existence of God. It is with the nature of God. My "faith" is in the order of the Universe and of the quantum world. The magnificent Non-Randomness evidences something behind it all. But to humanize that Cosmic Force, to expect favors and protection, to claim an understanding and to constuct dogma and religion and edifices is pure folly.
Surely, something is going on. What? The true mystery of our faith. Unknowable. So stop pretending. Stop manipulating. Stop killing in the name of God.
My Bright Abyss
"Human love can reach right into death. Such a realization should ease loneliness-even for the griever who is left alone; it should also, in time, help to propel one back into life. Nothing is served by following someone into a grave. Somehow, even deep with extreme grief, the worst pain is knowing that your grief will pass, all the sharp particulars of life than one person's presence made possible will fade into mere memory, and then not even that. Consequently, many people fight hard to keep their wound fresh, for in that wound, at least, is the loss, and in the loss the life you shared. Or so it seems. In truth the life you shared, because it was shared, was marked by joy, by light. Cradled in loneliness, it becomes pure grief, pure shadow, which is a problem not simply for the present and the future, but for the past as well. Excessive grief, the kind that paralyzes a person, the kind that eventually becomes an entire personality- in the end this does not honor the love that is its origin. Is, not was: our dead have presence. You don't need to believe in some literal heaven to feel the ways in which the dead inhabit us-for good, if we let them do that, which means, paradoxically,...letting them go."
Friday, October 22, 2021
Thursday, September 2, 2021
Sunday, August 29, 2021
A Taste of Normalcy
It's located in an old historic fire house. The lower level is the performing arts stage. Small venue, good seats, sound and lights. Not a bad seat in the house. And the concession stand serves local brew IPAs. The upper level is a movie theater.
On Thurdsay evening we watched the Anthony Bourdain documentary, Roadruner. Intense and thought provoking.
On Friday I enjoyed a Pousette-Dart Band performance. Who? said my daughter and son-in-law. Great band from the 70s. Great show. Had to show a Covid Vac Card and mask to get in.
Have also seen the James Montgomery Blues Band and Mark Cohn.
A little Covid safe oasis. Almost feels normal...
Thursday, August 26, 2021
Sunday, August 1, 2021
notes from the waterfront
Bill lives at Dave's house, dates his mulato daughter... went to alternative school in Windham with Mikey... worked as a form carpenter, foundations, concrete. Drank too much, got hurt and started taking pain killers, moved onto Oxy, moved onto heroine, convicted of aggrivated assault on a drug dealer, spent 2 years at Warren. When he got out, found his girlfriend had left him, his friend had sold his vehicles, his tools had been stolen. Wants to get his head up, buy back some tools, get back to construction. Worked as a mover for awhile.
Opened up to me on the second day. "Only people in Windham are Skinners and Rats... (pedophiles and snitches). Skinners do hard time. The other inmates abuse them. Brian was labeled a skinner because he stayed in his cell and read. "The inmates and the guards hated me and I hated them. Hard time."
The brakes were fixed on the forktruck. Watching Skully do donuts with a full exacta of fish on the forks, skidding on the slimy floor, screaming like a cowboy on a bucking bronco, Ralph said, "Well Skully's got brakes. All he needs now are brains."
Story about coaching Ralph to ask for a raise and how to deal with the rejection and the ultimate success when he got it. Story about Skully's tote.
Sent down to spy on the competition. if they were receiving a pogie truck that was promised to us. sent to run an errand across town. felt like I had been promoted until I was told that I was the only one with a license...
My position as a coffe bitch. Skully calls from his forktruck across the shop to ask me to bring him his coffe which is closer to him than to me. I threw up my hands in disbelief as the crew laughed, then I got him his coffee. Later when the crew was all around the desk I yelled across the floor to him and told him to bring me my soda... which was arms lenght from me on the desk... they all laughed.
Skully was showing off his numerous scars and stitch marks. " 54 here from a bar bottle at Ricky's... 26 here from a pool que at Bubba's... 2 in my eye lid from a fist... Not to be left out I showed him my surgical scar on my neck from parotid surgery... He said, Where'd you get that..." I lied "Knife fight... New Orleans". My stock went way up...
Conversations with Craig
Conversation with Craig.
"I've worked down here on the waterfront for 30 years now. I don't know what normal is any more. This is the only place I feel comfortable... like I fit in my own skin. So when I get together with regular people I find myself thinking "What would normal people say in a situation like this?" I'll say "So, how's the family..." And then they go on and I try to look interested."
"Don't tell anyone I said that..."
my God
My God is bigger than your God.
My God embraces all religions/philosophies; Christians, Catholics, Protestants, Fundamentalists, Mormons, Jehovah Witnesses, Muslims, Hindus, Jews, Sikhs, Buddhists, Atheists, Agnostics, Cosmismists, Darwinists ,New Age thinking, .... everyone, everything, every idea. My God embraces scientists, sinners, sailors, sociopaths... all the s words and all the words beginning with every letter in the alphabet. Yes, even the homosexuals.My God is bigger than infinity, stronger than Superman, smarter than the Singularity. And silent. My God is All That Is. It (not he or she; It is not made in our image or we in It's) does not hate, is not jealous, does not reward or punish, does not judge, doesn't care if I eat meat on Friday or recite the Apostles Creed. My God is Love, Compassion, Tolerance, Understanding, Acceptance, Forgiving, The Cosmic Consciousness, The Non-Random Force of the Universe. My God is not religious dogma, intolerance, controlling, political or Republican. My God does not take sides, establish right over wrong, protect the innocent from disaster or punish the guilty. My God is more than words, can not be understood. My God is seen and heard and felt in everything and in nothing.
My God is Life. My God is non-life. It flows through everything. It exists in the space between neutrinos and the Higgs-Boson particles and between the billions and billions of galaxies and among the infinite Universes and beyond that. It lives in ETs, DNA, UFOs and in me.
My God is bigger than your God.
Saturday, July 24, 2021
Warriors
Timing is everything.
We are the sons and daughters of warriors. Fosses have blood on our hands and souls. We only know the “recent” history. John Fosse fought the Dutch in naval battles in the 1600's and the Indians in King Philip’s War in the Colonies, as did his sons, Samuel and Ichabod. Isaiah Foss fought the British in the Revolutionary War at Saratoga and perhaps at Bunker Hill.
William H Foss fought in the Civil
War at Bull Run and Fredericksburg. Elfin J Foss, 1st cousin of
William, died on Little Round Top at
Gettysburg. Andrew Foss, brother of Hiram, was a merchant marine, on a ship
torpedoed during WWII and survived by swimming under burning pools of oil.
Uncle Bob Foss served in the Army during Korea.
But Frank was too young for WWII by a scant couple years. And Glen drew a high lottery number in the draft of 1970 for the Vietnam War and did not serve. Ryan and Eric grew up during a relatively calm period of history and missed the Mid-East Conflicts, Kuwait and Iraq and Afghanistan.
On my mother’s side, our family fought in the Spanish American War and WWI. Uncle Stan was in the Coast Guard off Africa in WWII. Uncle Dick was a Marine in the 50s.
On Connie's side, Joe Murphy served in WWII in England and Germany and later in Korea. So did his three brothers and three brothers-in-law and one brother-in-law, Edward Barrows, the son of the Maine Governor, died in France. Joey Murphy and later, his brother, Noah Murphy served in the Air National Guard.
We have violence in our DNA. We have war in our veins. Those of us who “missed” the opportunity to fight somehow feel guilty that we did not serve our country...other than pay our taxes.
Wednesday, July 14, 2021
Close Calls
We can all recall those adrenalin pumping close calls in our lives. A narrowly avoided car accident. A slip on a rocky precipice. A close lightning strike. Sliding off an icy ski slope at a high rate of speed into the woods. The list goes on. There have been more than a few for me, but one especially comes to mind.
My best man, Gordie, was back in Maine one chilly October week and we decided to go duck hunting in the marshes on the north end of East Pond in Smithfield. Gordie lived in Fairbanks Alaska where winter had already arrived, but Maine weather was comparitively mild and the waters were still cool, but not freezing.
We loaded up my 12 foot alumicraft duck boat complete with a new 12 hp Evinrude outboard at the south end boat ramp. Guns and ammo boxes, decoys, paddles, materials to construct a blind. We were anxious to head out in the early morning mist and I wanted to try out my new motor. Perhaps that is why I neglected to attach the motor kill strap to my wrist.
We were half way up the lake and the motor was performing well. We were flying. The bailing bucket was rolling around on the bottom of the boat and I let go of the tiller to secure it. As I discovered later, the motor tiller tensioning screw had not been tightened. The motor turned sharply to the right.
I was thrown out of the boat. When I fought my way to the surface I was shocked to find the boat racing around me at full speed (no kill switch) with Gordie clinging to the gunnells, half in the water as the boat swamped and filled with water. I'll never forget the look on Gordie's face. In Alaska in October this mishap would have been a hypothermic fatality.
The motor was still wide open but the boat's wild circles had slowed being half filled with water. On the third cycle I was able to lunge into the boat and pull the kill switch at which point the motor went under water and all our gear started floating on the surface. We were about 100 yards off shore, but it seemed like a mile.
The styrofoam floats under the seats kept the boat from sinking completely. We quickly made a plan. Gordie stayed in the water at the bow preventing the boat from flipping over. I grabbed our guns and ammo boxes floating in their cases and stuffed them under the seats, grabbed a paddle and stood in the boat with water to my waist. I paddled like hell for the shore.
Twenty minutes later we beached the boat. Gordie was blue and shaking. Hypothermia was setting in. I knew we had to act fast. There were unoccupied camps along the lake at that time of year. We would have to break into a camp, get out of our wet clothes and warm up...quickly.
I scanned the camps and fortunately identified one that looked familiar, my buddy Kenny's place. We were about to break the glass in the door when I thought maybe Kenny had a hidden key. Sure enough, it was hanging on a nail under the deck. When we opened the door we knew we were saved. The wood stove was loaded and we quickly started a roaring fire. We stripped off our wet clothes and wrapped ourselves in blankets. And in the middle of the kitchen table was an unopened handle of Scorsby's scotch.
By 9:00 am we were toasty and toasted. By noon time, we had bailed the boat, stowed the gear and were trailering back to the house. We stopped for lunch in Oakland at our frat brother, Art's, greasy spoon where I called Kenny. No answer, so on his answering machine I left a criptic message.
"Kenny, just wanted to thank you for saving our asses. I owe you a bottle of scotch. Talk soon, my friend."
Gordie has never gone duck hunting with me since...
Sunday, June 20, 2021
Thursday, June 17, 2021
Walking Wounded
Life ain't for sissies.
As much as we want to believe the "happily ever after" view of life, it does not exist. Life is trauma differing only in degree. No one is spared; not the rich or the religious, not the successful or the privileged, not the young and certainly not the aged.
The ancient sages recognized this. Some offered philosophies, the Stoics. Some offered heavenly reward and eternal bliss. Some hedonism or nihilism. But, in the end, we exist as walking wounded. Only joy provides solace and comfort. Only love sooths the pain and blunts the devastating losses. Only courage gets us through the dark night of the soul.
Realize this and gain compassion for humanity and for ourselves.